Personality and creativity


Movies would have you believe that to be a successful writer that you need to be sat behind a large desk surrounded by books, I would have to disagree.
Creativity is influenced by personality and to make the most of your own talents you need to understand yourself and the way that you are inspired not try to mould yourself into someone else’s ideal.
I’m a chaotic person, with a short attention span. I do my best plot planning when I’m out riding or mucking out my stables. I don’t own a study nor do I want one. I write in the living room surrounded by my dogs and cats, usually with the television blasting and one eye on the conversation I’m having on WhatsApp.
Other people may prefer complete silence or a special chair or pen. My point is it doesn’t matter. There is no right or wrong. Do what feels right to you and don’t be afraid to be different. Writing is an art form which comes from the soul and that’s your soul not anyone else’s so whatever you need to inspire you is what you should use.
Creativity needs freedom, space to grow and develop for that some need order and planning, other’s need noise, music, chaos. Close your eyes and concentrate on your happy place. The one place you feel inspired and where ever it is, is where you should be. Happy writing.


Autism and animals


I have always believed that animals have an ability to reach out to those that need them in a way that people can’t. They have a unlimited amount of love  and an acceptance that society doesn’t offer, to anyone who may be a little bit different.
I have surrounded my daughter with pets her whole life. Through them I have watched her grow in confidence and for them, she has made herself face her problems with communication to get them what they need.
Her greatest success has been with her beloved pony Angel. Time and time again I’ve watched the bond between them and blessed the wonderful man who brought her in to our lives. Angel hadn’t had the best of starts in live. She was badly trained and frightened of almost everything. Right from the beginning my daughter was determined to help her.
She understands that Angel can only be confident if she is confident because she trusts her to tell her things are safe. Each and every day my daughter faces new challenges head on so that Angel can learn the things that she needs. It’s not always plane sailing and we have a lot of good and bad days but they have come miles on their journey together.
My daughter has willingly faced being trampled to rescue Angel from a fire and faced down horse theives when they wanted to steal her. Which was a miracle for someone who can’t speak to strangers. Love for her pony overcomes everything.
To every parent of an autistic child I’d say give them a pet. Something they can hold and love. A friend to face the frightening world with. As soon as you see the difference it can make, you’ll never regret it.

See the person not the autism


Since it’s Autism awareness day I would like to honour all the people with autism, especially my own family members by talking about my own experience  as a parent of an autistic child, in particular the frustrations felt from uninformed bystanders.
My daughter is a selective mute which means that in some social situations she becomes so frightened that she is unable to speak. I am constantly asked why she doesn’t talk and having explained, well meaning people have then either tried to badger her in to speaking, talked to her like she’s simple or completely ignored her. Non of which is either helpful nor necessary. Autistic people may view the world differently but they can and do understand. In their own way they are communicating. Please look for the small signs, the tiny smile, the whispered word, the picture they drew because they didn’t have the words.
All they need is the willingness to see beyond the tantrums and the socially unacceptable behaviour to the heart that’s saying love me!
So the next time you see a child that appears to be extremely shy, or loud, or over boisterous, or that’s throwing the biggest tantrum you’ve ever seen, don’t tut and think it’s bad parents. Smile, say hello. Don’t expect a reply and if you’re really lucky you might get one.
Every new positive social in counter is a victory for an autistic person and they’re family, so please on this very important day be part of someone’s victorious journey. Your one smile will make a difference.